Comments on In All Purity: How Modesty Helps You

Fantastic analogy. May God bless you for your cha...

2010-11-29T08:08:15.004-06:00

Fantastic analogy. May God bless you for your charity.

Wow, I've never heard modesty explained so wel...

2010-08-26T22:50:51.746-05:00

Wow, I've never heard modesty explained so well like this from a male's stand-point. Thank you so much.

May God bless you,
Brooke.

ditto to what Anna Naomi said, she took the words ...

2010-08-02T04:36:55.233-05:00

ditto to what Anna Naomi said, she took the words out of my mouth. :) Great post. Megan

Wow! It's so nice to hear this from a young ma...

2010-06-06T20:40:22.267-05:00

Wow! It's so nice to hear this from a young man! I have been trying really hard to be modest in all I do/wear, and you really have encouraged me all the more. Thank you so much; keep up the awesome work! :)

-SH

Lucy- I've thought long and hard about how to ...

2010-04-16T22:25:52.268-05:00

Lucy-
I've thought long and hard about how to answer your question. After noting all the thoughts that came to mind, I decided I'd better just make it into a blog post rather than a comment. So, thats the next post on the inallpurity schedule.
The short answer to your question is that if/when God shows me the woman who is supposed to be my wife, it is very possible that He will choose one who regrets her past. If I know that God is orchestrating the relationship (I firmly believe that God will make His will known in these situations if we seek him) then I know that that marriage is just as Holy and pure as any other possible arrangement.
As for the long answer, I'll put that in a post soon.

Anonymous-
Those are valid points. I failed to stress the inherent value in all women. I will keep all that in mind. Thanks for the critisism.

All persons are valuable. A person wearing immode...

2010-04-10T11:57:50.586-05:00

All persons are valuable. A person wearing immodest clothing or a Cassatt in crayola are still valuable. It is the Creator, the Master, of the work who adds value.

Mona Lisa would be of the same value pulled from the trash heap of a New York sidewalk - something which happened a few years ago to another masterwork painting - as it is guarded and protected in a museum. The same applies to a woman immodestly dressed. She is of value because God is her creator.

We are all created in His image and therein lies the value. It is the Creator who has placed value on humans irregardless of our condition - while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

This is the beauty of Christ. He welcomes everyone. It is humans who judge according to dress.

I understand your point here is how men view women immodestly dressed and you have some good points. However, given this venue is public, it would be wise to fully work out your thesis with an eye to how it relates to and affects the gospel of Christ - so as to not cause any of these to stumble.

I really loved this analogy. thanks.

2010-03-29T03:22:58.572-05:00

I really loved this analogy. thanks.

You are doing an amazing job with this! I am reall...

2010-03-20T11:03:04.275-05:00

You are doing an amazing job with this! I am really encouraged by what you have written... please be encouraged to keep it up! I will be checking back for new posts. It is so inredibly refreshing to find a teenage guy who feels so strongly about this, and who is willing to step up and try to make a differance. Great job with this, Ben!

hey this is a great post! I also like the illustra...

2010-03-04T22:01:24.291-06:00

hey this is a great post! I also like the illustration!

Hi Ben, interesting blog! I have a question for y...

2010-03-03T11:47:29.438-06:00

Hi Ben, interesting blog!

I have a question for you that arose from my reading of your blogs. I fully support your quest for purity, but I just wondered that if you found a Christian woman whom you truly loved and wanted to become your wife but she had not been pure in her earlier life (despite a commitment to purity and modesty in the present), would you find this thought too difficult to continue to love her?
My aim is not to be difficult or contrary, I was just wondering about your views on women who have changed the direction of their lives.
Lucy

Uzza- That comment was meant to be tongue in chee...

2010-02-28T17:01:11.908-06:00

Uzza-
That comment was meant to be tongue in cheek. Basically, because anyone in the world will agree that men know best about what they think of women, then I could be considered a generally recognized expert. The only reason I said that was to clarify what my purpose was for this site. I’m not here because of what I know about women, but instead because of what I know about how I think about women.
Thanks for the question.

Hello again Ben!! I love the analogy you used. It ...

2010-02-18T09:29:38.247-06:00

Hello again Ben!! I love the analogy you used. It was a great way to put it. It is so refreshing to know that there are men out there who really do value woman who dress modestly!! It makes me feel like I am doing it all for a amazing reason. :)

Keep up the great posts!!!

Ben, You have a brillant mind, one I would have n...

2010-02-15T16:21:05.582-06:00

Ben,
You have a brillant mind, one I would have never guessed to come from behind the clown suit at the family picnic, ha, but in all seriousness, stay the way you are, and keep posting, it gives us Godly women hope that there are more men like yourself out there! I personally think the way you compared girls to the Mona Lisa, was a beautiful way to put it! God Bless you and your family.. btw hope everyone is doing well your way!

Once again, great post, Ben!

2010-02-13T10:47:16.520-06:00

Once again, great post, Ben!

I’m back with a working internet connection and so...

2010-02-12T23:29:02.173-06:00

I’m back with a working internet connection and some time to use it.

Anonymous-
Your comment is similar to a couple others I’ve received.
First and foremost, I try daily to hold women in high esteem. If this post was at all insulting to you, I apologize. Modesty seems to be a difficult topic to write about unless one is extremely cautious. I will try to be more cautious next time.
Moving to the points you made. I recognize the inherent value of the Mona Lisa, which is a major reason that that example came to mind. There is no woman who does not have high inherent value. Once that is understood I think that the rest of the analogy makes sense. A stolen Mona Lisa still has inherent value, but it’s in a compromised situation. And anyone who steals the Mona Lisa doesn’t care anything about the value it has. It could be a brick for all they care. All they care about is what they can get from it (money in this case). A protected Mona Lisa can only be valued for its beauty and inherent worth, not for what it can do for somebody.
As to your second statement, if you can’t compare a woman to a rare, valuable item (Proverbs 31:10; Song of Solomon 2:2) for the sake of an analogy, then what can you use for comparison? You will also notice that I compared many men to thieves, which isn’t the nicest thing that I could say about my own gender.

Mackenzie, Anna, Katie, and Allie-
As always, I hope you understand how much your encouragement means to me; it motivates me to continue. If you ever have anything that you dislike or disagree with about what I say, please feel free to let me know, I value your opinion. As iron sharpens iron, so one sister sharpens a brother. Proverbs 27:17 (paraphrased)

Thanks, Ben! It's so very encouraging to read...

2010-02-10T13:32:04.361-06:00

Thanks, Ben! It's so very encouraging to read your blog :)!

Thanks for another great post! Keep on speaking t...

2010-02-09T17:31:10.813-06:00

Thanks for another great post! Keep on speaking the truth!

~Allie

Your thinking is a little backwards. The Mona Lis...

2010-02-09T03:01:52.600-06:00

Your thinking is a little backwards. The Mona Lisa is guarded because it is valuable, not valuable because it is guarded.

And comparing a woman to a painting is insulting. It reduces a woman to an object, and one that is only valuable if untouched.

Thanks for sharing another great post! It encourag...

2010-02-08T20:54:43.136-06:00

Thanks for sharing another great post! It encourages us girls to see young men our age that respect and value modesty. Your analogy is a good one as well!

The Mona Lisa example is great, I'll have to r...

2010-02-06T10:36:33.825-06:00

The Mona Lisa example is great, I'll have to remember to steal it when trying to explain to other girls reasons to dress more modest. :)